My Story-

045Last week, someone I love very much tried to kill themself.  I know all too well the feeling of hopelessness and anguish that  can bring you to that point. When you are surrounded by so much NOTHING that the only one way out= to become nothing.

Just as I know now, oh so importantly, that  IT GETS BETTER. It does.

I decided now is the time to share MY story, my whole story.  About  how I was bullied- not just in High School, or Middle School, but how it started in 2nd grade.  I was 8.  I was different- in my case, I was overweight.  It never mattered that I was sick, and it caused me to gain weight, all people saw was my body. They didn’t see me.  I learned from age 8 that I was  worthless. I learned how to smile through tears. I learned how to hide pain. I learned how to accept  shards of friendship becasue I thought it was all I was deserving of.  It only got worse. Much worse.

Why?  Because I am fat.  I have been fat since I was small because my thyroid went crazy and for reasons I couldn’t have helped, I gained a lot of weight.  I started hiding behind it because it was me. I was the fat girl, and I was worthless. Then as I got older I got other sicknesses that  helped me gain weight. Depression did the rest.

Here is my story:

I came close to ending my life  simply because other people didn’t like what they saw, and I let them make me a victim.  I let my self doubt, and yes, even self hatred spiral me into a pit I nearly didn’t crawl out of.

But, I did crawl out of it.

I made a decision that I was worthy, I was special, I was beautiful.  I deserve to be happy, and I am going to be. I choose to believe in ME.  Not what others see or think or say. I want to lose weight, sure. But even if I don’t lose a pound, I am beautiful. I am worthy. I am not a size or a number on a scale.  I am so much more than that.

And I want to be there, to SHOUT TO EACH AND EVERY OTHER PERSON who is being told they are worthless, pathetic, losers that  You are NOT.  You are a worthy, wonderful gift to this earth and maybe they don’t see it, hell, maybe even YOU don’t see it, but you are!  Love yourself.  YOU deserve it. and if no one else can see it, too bad.

Find someone who does see who you are and how wonderful you are and believe them when they tell you.  Find an ally.  Be an ally to others.  Share our strength.  Share positive words and smiles.  Believe with everything you are that  everyone is beautiful and had worth.






84 Responses to My Story-

  1. Sue Pullen says:

    You are an amazing, intelligent, and beautiful person. God bless you for sharing your story and bringing hope to others that may be feeling similar pain. Keep shining your light!

  2. Poli says:

    I just wanted to say that you are beautiful, indeed. I am writing you all the way from Switzerland just to say how much I loved your story and admire your resolution. Keep it up! :*

  3. Great job on sharing your story! There have recently been two kids in our neighborhood who killed themselves and honestly, there is nothing sadder than a child so lost and alone that they feel the only option is to end their lives. Thank you for being brave and strong and realizing that every life is important and everyone is worthy of love and happiness.

  4. Ally, let me just say that you’re the bravest girl I know for having the guts to share your story. From just this one post and video, I KNOW you are much more than those kids ever thought you were. You are strong and beautiful! I’ve shared your story across Facebook and Twitter asking my friends and fans to share it to. You have the power to help so many kids who are feeling just the way you did, hopeless.

  5. Brandy says:

    I think you are amazing to share this and I am going to share this with my daughter! <3

  6. You are amazing. I admire your strength in sharing your story. You are truly an inspiration.

  7. You are so very brave and beautiful, and amazing! Don’t ever ever let anyone tell you any differently. You are so powerful and so much more than anyone who only sees the superficial, will ever know, and you know what? It’s their loss. You are so very worthy of every single happiness life has to offer and I’m glad you realize that!

  8. Abbe says:

    First, thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story. People can be very cruel. I too was a victim of bullying. In 6th grade, the boys would beat me up. 1 boy hit me with a ruler every day as soon as the teacher wasn’t looking. Another threatened to kick my butt after school, and as we walked out of the school, he did indeed kick my butt. There was a card game called “knucks,” and when you lost, you got hit in the knuckles of your hand with the deck of cards. Well, I was hit with the sides of the deck, and by the 13th hit, my knuckles were bleeding. I have many more stories, unfortunately…I never felt safe. I was the new fat kid in town. I also had no friends. So I can tell you that it DOES get better. Be yourself. Don’t compromise who you are, and believe in yourself. One day, those bullies will have to live with the guilt of what they did. Those who don’t seek forgiveness will have a hard time living with themselves, and if they don’t care, they are sociopaths anyway, so they really don’t matter. People can really hurt. Lean on those that love you. Their love can help ease the pain. It was an option I didn’t have, and I also didn’t share it with anyone because I was scared. OK, done blabbing now. I will be sharing your stories with as many people as I can. You are NOT alone!!!

    • Ally says:

      Thank you for sharing Abbe. I remember you and your boys. I am going to stay true to myself and be me-
      Abbe- thank you SO much for sharing your story. I’m sad that happened to you. Thank you so much!

  9. shari says:

    Wow!!! You are an amazing person. I am sorry for all you have gone through. No one should ever have to go through what you did. But in the end, the bullies didn’t win! You took your story and are helping numerous people re-examine their lives. You are made for so much more. There is a song called “You’re Beautiful” by Mercy Me. It came into my mind reading your story. Our children don’t have too many people to look up to as role models these days, I would say you are one! I am enclosing the lyrics to the song I mentioned. It is a Christian song but the words are so very true. Thank you for sharing your story, you have so much more life to live. When you are older and look back on your life you will realize this was just a “blip” in the happy life you will create. May God Bless you!!/ss:facebook

    Days will come when you don’t have the strength
    And all you hear is you’re not worth anything
    Wondering if you ever could be loved
    And if they truly saw your heart they’d see too much

    You’re beautiful
    You’re beautiful
    You are made for so much more than all of this
    You’re beautiful
    You’re beautiful
    You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His
    You’re beautiful

    Praying that you’d have the heart to fight
    ‘Cause you are more than what is hurting you tonight
    For all the lies you’ve held inside so long
    They are nothing in the shadow of the cross

    You’re beautiful
    You’re beautiful
    You are made for so much more than all of this
    You’re beautiful
    You’re beautiful
    You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His
    You’re beautiful

    Before you ever took a breath
    Long before the world began
    Of all the wonders He possessed
    There was one more precious
    Of all the earth and skies above
    You’re the one He madly loves
    Enough to die

    You’re beautiful
    You’re beautiful
    In His eyes

    You’re beautiful
    You were meant for so much more than all of this
    You’re beautiful
    You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His
    You’re beautiful
    You’re beautiful
    You’re meant for so much more than all of this
    You’re beautiful
    You’re beautiful
    You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His

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  10. Karen Brook says:


    You are as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside. I can’t see anything but a beautiful girl with a beautiful soul. One who is thoughtful and kind as well as being lovely. You are wise beyond your years and there is no doubt in my mind that you will continue to make wonderful contributions to the world around you as you grow from the beautiful young girl that you are into the beautiful woman that you are going to be. Continue to be strong and brave and stand up for yourself and others who are being bullied. I applaud your efforts and know that your mother is proud to call you her daughter. Anyone would be. What those kids did to you should not be tolerated. There is something lacking in them to allow them to behave in that manner. Perhaps that is what made you their target. They knew that you had more to offer society than they could ever hope to offer. More. Not less.

  11. You’re a wonderful person doing wonderful stuff with your life. School is a small part of life, and a weird part, at that, with people forced to be together who would never naturally sit in the same room with each other. It leads to weird and horrible situations. So many people are going to be your friend, are going to like you and love you, you’re right about that, it is going to get better.

    I was bullied in middle-school, but got contacts and some serious dermatology and that broke the back of it as I transitioned into highschool. I wasn’t an alpha male, but I was off that radar, reprieved. I remember, how once it got started, there was no stopping it, had this life of it’s own. I showered twice a day, and was attacked as being ‘greasy’ and filthy. I remember the sense of being powerless to stop it. They would call me greasy, I had shiny black hair, and ‘coke bottle’ super thick glasses and that was that. Oh, add in the fact at that age you’re getting attracted to the opposite sex, big time, and you’re a pariah, and yeah, suicide shows up as an option very very soon. You’re trapped in the now and the now sucks. But it’s a goddamn eyeblink, let me tell you, I’m absurdly old now, still feel like that 13 year old basically, and I’m so glad I didn’t kill myself when I was 16.

    • Ally says:

      Thank you for sharing your story! I’m so glad you didn’t kill yourself, either. I know it’s getting better, every single day!

  12. You are beautiful, strong and I wish we were friends when I was your age. Bullying like this is definitely not knew but it is STRONGER than when I was a kid. People didn’t dare call me at home, cause they would have to deal with my mom. But now all it takes is a click of a button to bully someone.

    Keep being you! You are awesome!

  13. Julie says:

    Wow, Ally. I am amazed by your strength, your poise, your beauty! Thank you for sharing your story. I have two young boys and I often worry about how cruel kids can be. I worry about the future they will grow up in. But very often I am reminded that for as many mean kids there are out there, there are also wonderful, smart, genuine, kind, generous people like you. Keep fighting the fight and standing up for yourself and everything you believe in. That is how I am raising my boys and I hope someday they have as much strength and self-love that you do. Thank you for ending my week with such an uplifting story.

  14. kristin says:

    Dear Ally,
    Your story is going to help so many people! I’m sorry you had to go through all that pain, and I’m sure there are still difficult days, but you are amazing! Your courage is inspiring; keep being you~

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  16. Tanya says:

    Thank you for being such an amazing and brave young woman. Girls of all ages need more positive role models to look to in life. None of us are perfect, but we are ALL deserving of love and respect. I applaud you for sharing your struggle in the hopes of inspiring others.

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  19. Emmie says:

    You’re beautiful, inside and out. This story is so incredibly similar to mine. My first suicide thoughts – planning scenarios out and setting timelines – came when I was 13. It does get better. It gets SO MUCH better. So important to remind everyone.

  20. Michelle Brennan says:

    Thanks for sharing Ally. I am fearful that this story is all too common and whatever we are doing to educate and keep our kids safe is NOT working. I am so sorry this happened to you, but I am glad that you have overcome and are doing well now!

  21. Marsha says:

    Wow, you are so amazing. The first thing I thought when I opened this page was ” Oh, she is so gorgeous!!!”. Thank you for sharing your story and for listening to the incredible beauty that is you. Namaste. Love , Marsha

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  23. Amy D'Agat says:

    I am so proud of you, you are smart, brave and an inspiration. My kids kow I don’t tolerate bullying why because when I was little I was bullied for being overweight. I remember who and what they said I am 45. I have accomplished a lot in my life and I pride myself in the ability to see the potential and beauty in everyone. Bullies pick others because it takes the spotlight of of their own doubts and insecurities. Unless you have been a victim of a bully you can’t understand the despair, humiliation, and loneliness that a victim who is harrassed feels. I try to educate my children to step in if they see someone being bullied, stop it if they can. Invite someone who is sitting alone at lunch to join them. To speak out, acknowledge and educate others about the real life issues of bullying and to put a stop to it is only the beginning. Adults also partake in bullying, little bullies grown up to be big bullies and raise a new generation of bullies! Be very proud of who you are and put a face on the ugliness of bullying! What makes us beautiful is our uniqueness and you are a SHINING STAR!

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  25. jen says:

    I found your story through CNN. :) Way to bring national attention to bullying. While I def don’t condone bullying in any way shape or form, you have turned this around for yourself. You only know how strong you are in your darkest hours. You, my friend, are stronger than you ever thought.

    I was bullied horribly in elementary and middle school. Even teachers joined in. I look back everyday and think what sad people they were (and probably still are) to be so mean to peers.

    Being bullied taught me one thing…..always treat someone the way you want to be treated. And never sink down to their level. Be who you are.

    you’ve got this girl 😉

  26. Amy says:


    I am so glad you are still here to share your story and to be an inspiration to other youth. Thank you for what you are doing. As a parent, it is a terrifying to know that my two girls, ages 8 and 11, may have to deal with this at some point and it is people like you who can help empower them to rise above it and stand up against bullying.

  27. Dana says:

    I think you are an amazing and beautiful young woman, Ally! Read your story on CNN and then came here to learn more. I’m a mom of 3 and your story really touched my heart. You are so brave and so inspiring!! We wish you the best of luck in all you do!

  28. andrew says:


    YOU ARE “LOVE!” You are Beautiful in EVERY sense of the word! You overcame bullies, and you survived. Good for you! You are Strong! I pray that your story reaches across the globe. People NEED to hear you, to know you and your story.
    You are God’s creation, and no human can take that away from you: His love for you.
    Keep talking about your life, and SCREAM it out to the world, because it is necessary!

    You have so many people who love you, many of whom you don’t know and may never meet, but we Are here for you.


    brother Andrew dinegar
    Alexian Brothers

  29. CelticLotus says:

    I read this with tears in my eyes. I went through the same bullying as you in middle school.
    I’m now a confident 30 year old woman, but I sure wish I’d had an ally like you!
    Keep it up, you are a brave, beautiful girl and an inspiration!

  30. You go girl!!!! Thanks for sharing your story, I think this helps a lot of people. All the best!!!

  31. S.E.H says:

    It breaks my heart when a favored child of God has to endure the wrath of the wicked… However, the best that walked in the Bible endured the worst, then then transitioned right into the space God had intended for them all along… one of Divine Placement. So consider youself on the journey to be what God intended and it is the mistake of the wicked that will cause you to surpass limits unbeknownst to you as of now…

    I find it ‘funny’ how what a few people thought they were doing to BREAK you only landed you on the page of one of the most pretigious websites… CNN. Oh God!!! That is how I discovered your blog, as I am sure others here as well… It’s true… a negative ALWAYS develops into a positive picture. Look at you now.

    God Bless my sister and remember you don’t live for man.

    Suicide is NEVER an option. One should never take their own life after A GREAT MAN has already died for US.


  32. Stacy Kay says:

    Thanks so much for sharing your story. I am touched and empowered by your courage.

  33. You are so brave! Keep the message alive! I just shared your link on my FB with a personal plea for parents to remind their children about dignity. Zero tolerance! Life does get better every day and every year. I was bullied as a child for being a “minority” and 35 years later those kids are in my dust. Onward and Upward to a beautiful girl for a beautiful life!

  34. Rick Myers says:

    My daughter tends to be a little overweight and I hear her friends and how they speak to her sometimes at 9 yo. Then I read your story…what an eye opener! I’ll definitely keep my eyes open. Thank you for telling your story. You are a very special girl!

  35. Priscila says:

    Hi Ally,

    I am Priscila from Costa Rica but living in Tallahassee, FL now. I am so happy you are better today because you are extremely beautiful and smart. I have a 21 months old boy and another baby on his/her way. I pray everyday to God so that they can learn to listen to the right people. Your are an inspiration and I am sure you will achieve all your dreams. Love -Priscila

  36. Lois says:

    I was bullied all thru high school for my weight, I managed to lose quite a bit of weight over the years. I was bartending at a wake and noticed a lady looking at me kind of strange, she finally asked if I was Lois, I said yes and she gave me her name. Someone I hadn’t seen in almost 25 years! We talked for a little while and she asked if I could take a break and speak with her privately. We walked outside and she began crying saying how she had tortured me in school, how mean she was to me and wanted to apologize! I was shocked because frankly I didn’t remember her as one of those that had bullied me. Things will get better for you, I hope that time can ease your pain

  37. Bonnie says:

    I’m utterly in awe of you, your strength and poise at this young age. As I listened to all the terrible things those other sad, broken kids said to you, I thought, those children are talking about themselves. This is what people do; they create the world in their own image, and hateful people live in hateful worlds.

    I see you rejecting those children’s invitation to live in a monstrous world and, instead, creating a new world in your own image: an image of love, strength, and recognition coming back to you as so, so many of us hear your story and say yes, I know how it is, I remember, I got through it, and you will too.

    It’s not always easy to be self-aware in a world of fools, but the rewards… well, they make it worthwhile.

    You are one of us — one of the strong ones — and we’ve got your back.

    Stay strong. You’re one of us.

  38. Mary says:

    I found your blog through CNN and I want to say, I am so amazed by your strength and your maturity in all this! I, too, have been bullied from elementary school through high school because I was fat. I am close to 30 now and it took so much to unlearn what everyone has been telling me I was all those years. If only I had the maturity you have at your age, I would have spared all those years of self-torment. I just want to say that I am now a thriving adult, and that it really does get better. With your positive outlook on life, you have so much to look forward to. You are an intelligent beautiful girl with a bright future ahead of you, keep it up!

  39. Juli Mills says:

    you are beautiful! These “friends” are haters all they want to do is look and be like you don’t listen to any of them! I’m bullied too i know what the feels like they act like your friends one day and then the next they are hurting you left and right. But someone will always be there….always <3

  40. Naomi says:

    Hi Ally!

    I just wanted to tell you that you look very beautiful inside and out! I think in school there is always some people that are very ugly inside them and usually because they didn’t feel enough love or attention in their own family, and they feel miserable and wants others to feel the same way.

    The bully himself/herself is projecting his/her own self-hate or hate of the world onto one random other kid at school. I always tell my 7 years daughter this so she can hopefully stay strong if she is ever bullied and can try to understand this has nothing to do about her own persona. That the bully would do this to anyone he or she decide to pick on. Unfortunately there is also a lot of followers-ignorant kids and it is this movement of ignorant careless kids following one or two real mean kids that can create real damage towards someone.

    I am very happy you decided to speak up because this can help people that are bullied but also hopefully can raise awareness and knowledge to parents and kids that are just the ignorant followers that support either actively or passively this kind of behavior (which is equally condemnable).

    If the majority of the kids would decide not to follow the mean kids, this would not be happening. Happy and intelligent kids must stand up and disapprove any kind of cruelness at school. I hope the words get more and more around because no kid should be going through this. So thank you for helping so much and being so brave and resilient!

    I hope you find good people to surround you with and you accomplish what you decide to in life! Life is beautiful and you deserve to be very happy in! Growing up you will see that these bullies become miserable adults that are going no where, where you are becoming a fantastic women/person, whom we can thank for making this earth a better place! :)

    Thank you and take good care of you!


  41. Niki says:

    You are an amazing girl, as hard as it seems now this is just a spec of dust in the time you have on this Earth and none of those people are worth it. Sadly you will do wonderful things and more than likely not remember their names or faces. Stay strong!

  42. Jess Lewis says:

    Ally, thanks for sharing your story with the world. You are strong, beautiful, awesome and on a path to become an amazing woman!
    I am 29 years old and was picked on all throughout middle school for being tall and absolutely HATED, HATED high school. During my high school years, I was depressed and often thought about ending my life because the world seemed to suck too much. All I can say is it does GET BETTER – which I think you’ve already found out!
    Despite my fear of never ever finding that special boy who’d actually love me for being me, this year I got married to my husband and we’ve been enjoying our new life together with our two little pugs. :) NEVER could I have imagined during my high school years that life could be so sweet and that I could find this kind of happiness, but it happened. Life is a long journey with it’s up’s and down’s – some of us go through the tough times in school and then the good times when we’re done. I am so glad I stuck around to see where I’d end up. You will be too! Thanks again for sharing everything!

  43. Laura says:

    God bless you, Ally, for sharing a positive, hopeful message with the world! Your strength and grace at such a young age is truly impressive. I am going to share your blog with my stepdaughters (ages 9 & 10) so they can see how bullying affects others. Keep up the good work – you are amazing!

  44. Leslie says:

    I learned of you through CNN website. I couldn’t say more, but proud of you being so public about the bullying occurrence. My 12 years old daughter would come home crying once in a while with some verbal bullying incident where a person told her that she is a whore because she wears a make up. She is so into fashion and she loves fashion and make ups. I did told her 12 years old normally do not wear make up, but she is really very good at make up. I tried to give her support that the person who say that must be jealous of her for not able to look great like her. She does not believe me. She is truly beautiful. I am definitely going to share your blog to her so she can see that she is not alone and that the bullies are the problem not her or anyone else. Thank you for being you. And I agree with others, you’re truly beautiful and I can imagine you becoming a motivational speaker in the future to all schools over the country about stopping bully.

  45. Vicki says:

    Your video is very powerful. I know it was hard to tell your story but I think it helps not only people who have gone through something like that, it also helps people who have not to understand just how nasty it can be. I went through something similar when I was in 7th grade. That was before the Internet and social media. I can’t imagine how much worse it gets with the Internet. Thankfully I talked to my mom when I got suicidal and I was moved to a private school. I survived, too. Now it’s a faded memory, but it’s also part of my history and, at least in part, made me who I am today. You are right! It does get better. And you are worth it.

  46. Ann Smith says:


    You are BEAUTIFUL and don’t let anyone make you feel differently!!! You are a strong and smart young lady and I am so proud that you turned this terrible situation into something positive and are educating others. I am a mom to an 8 year old and I worry about these things with my daughter. I hope she has a friend like you as she gets older so we can prevent this from happening.

    Keep on inspiring!!!!

  47. dcg_in_cc says:

    People are jerks. You’ve done well to rise above them. You’ve moved on, but these people have not. They will continue to find other people to bully. Thank you for exposing people like this.

  48. Barbara says:

    Hello Ally, I have just found your amazing story on CNN, WOW – I am so glad that you did not succeed in your attempt – As a child I seemed to always stick up for those who were being bullied – I’m sure I learned this from my mother – In high school I was a cheer leader I was not fat, but I was treated very cruelly by the girls who were my friends – it was a difficult time – Now I am a grandmother of 6 children and when I read how today so many children are taking their lives because they are being bullied it breaks my heart, because I know what that pain feels like. I thought of killing myself many times – I am so happy that I didn’t – I am 71 years old and a counselor and I help women who themselves were bullied and abused as children – I share my own story with them – just like you are doing, sharing your pain and sharing your power and your beautiful spirit – thank you for what you are doing to help others. Many blessings to you.

  49. Storm says:

    I know what its like. When I was in 5th grade someone i knew was getting bullied and when i stood up for him i ended up getting bullied too. All you bullies reading this, STOP BULLYING RIGHT NOW!!!
    Because bullying is awful. And it makes you feel like crap. Like you mean nothing to anyone. That no one loves you. All you people getting bullied, even if it feels like everyone hates you, and that no one will stand with you, at least one person will. They might be shy, but if you try to find them, they will stand with you. So if your getting bullied, TELL A TEACHER and TELL YOUR PARENTS and find that special person that will stand with you. I am currently in middle school so i understand what kids are like nowadays. Take care everyone!

  50. Josh says:

    Hi Ally, I’m Josh. I found you through a story about you on CNN and I’m incredibly moved. As I read through your post, it really brought tears to my eyes. I didn’t think it would, but it did. The main reason for this is I was always part of the popular crowd. Part of the crowd that did the bullying. Only in recent years have I figured out what kind of effect my bullying had on my friends and others in my school years ago. I thought it was all in good fun…but it wasn’t! So, I’d like to take this opportunity to say I’m sorry. I know I didn’t bully you personally, but I was part of a trend that lead to today’s bullying. I can’t believe that I ever took part in that! You’re an amazing girl. You’re beautiful (I really mean that…I’d have been all over you in high school!), you’re smart (obviously by the way you write), and most importantly, you’re brave! It’s got to take a load of guts to do something like this, but hell, you’re pulling it off! I don’t even know you, yet, I’m incredibly proud of you!

    You know, your goal with this site is to get the awareness of bullying out to the masses. That can be pretty hard without financial backing. Have you ever considered opening some sort of charity? A great way to start would be to go to…share your story and create a donations page. Once you get donations, who knows…you could create TV ads, Radio ads and several other ways to get your message out there and end this thing once and for all! As soon as you create your page, let me know! I’ve got a donation for you! If this is something you’d like to do, and you’d like a hand, feel free to email me, I’d love to help!

  51. Nicole says:

    Hi Ally!

    Like Jay, I am absurdly old and feel my life has gone by in a blink of the eye. I also struggled with weight, self-harm, and bullying. I developed a severe eating disorder and nearly died from suicidal thoughts and self-destructive behaviors. This was long ago, before you were even born, but it has stayed with me though my life even though I worked through it and decided to care for myself, as you are doing. It is so difficult and takes such strength to persevere but you are doing the hard work you need to do to make the kind of life you deserve.

    You wrote something about suicide as a “long-term solution” to a “short-term problem.” That is insightful and profound. Hang onto yourself, my dear, and stay strong and powerful in your committment to your own worth, your own sense of your beautiful self, no matter what life or mean people throw your way. There are no easy answers but there ARE answers.

    I want to thank you for speaking out. I taught middle school for a while in a school with a bullying problem. In fact, the problem was bad enough that an anti-bullying program was put in place. The focus of that program was teaching kids to stand up, to speak out, to help each other and to break the cycle themselves instead of always counting on an adult to intervene. You are doing exactly that and your schoolmates, whether they know it or not, are in your debt.

    Hang in there and hold on. As you have discovered, and are discovering, it does get better and easier all the time.

    With love,

  52. Estefania says:

    Dear Ally
    My heart broke hearing your story! And in some way it makes me think of what my little 9 year old have been living in the past 2 years. It gets me so angry!!! I try to teach my daughter to love herself and to never let anyone make her feel unloved.
    Im so glad that you are happy and so brave!!!
    Keep up the positive attitude, you are an example for children.
    Big hugs from Ecuador/south america

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  54. Hey Ally, found your blog through the article on CNN.

    I’m 40 years old, and was a victim of bullying when I was younger. I’m thankful we had no cell phones or internet in those days. I’m always shocked when I hear of the bullying going beyond the school yard. I give you and your parents major praise for getting you through it all and helping you to persevere.

    At 40 and looking back, I’ll tell you that parents were right in how much your typical bully is perhaps the most insecure person on the planet. Look, they have to rip people like you or I apart to validate themselves on the inside. Their peers who join in are no better.

    This insecurity and lack of compassion carries them in life. Many of the past bullies didn’t go very far in life. They skipped on college, and struggle now to make a living because they focused on the wrong things. People like you or I instead pushed to move on, to grow, to not be the “worthless losers” many claimed we were.

    So here I am, age 40. Senior Interactive Art Director at a major ad agency, recruiters chasing me to leave, making great money and highly respected in my field. I’m happily married to a beautiful woman, I’ve traveled, learned photography, learned cooking from my father, and even DJed in front of 1000 people in my life.

    MY ADVICE TO YOU (and I’m sure others have said this): Learn to ignore the haters, get through High School, then break free and explore this world as you build that higher education and career. Build up yourself on the inside so when you encounter adult-aged bullies, you’ll laugh at their pathetic lives as opposed to feeling down. Also take your compassion to other bully victims, the downtrodden, and others like that. Always be the better person.

    It gets better…believe me. I speak from experience.

  55. Ari says:

    Dear Ally,

    I just wanted to say that this amazing what you are doing. You are so brave and I really respect you :). I have also gone through a lot of bullying since I was young because of my weight. For me, accepting that I’m beautiful and being comfortable in my own skin really helped.

    I am glad you are doing this for everyone bullied all around the world.

    Keep smiling :).

  56. Susan Marie says:

    I love your story and am so proud of you. You should change your website to bravegurl since you should stop that negative self talk even in the web page! Keep up the great and inspiring work you are doing :)

  57. Jessica says:

    Ally, you are such a beautiful girl! Thank you for sharing your story! You are truly an inspiration<3

  58. David says:

    You are BEAUTIFUL.

  59. Shilpa says:

    Dear Ally,

    You are Very Very beautiful… have a beautiful heart and wht you are doing is great….:)

    Reading through your post i felt like I was going through it, all those people who bullied you are cowards and have nothing better to do.

    You will achieve great things in life. Continue being an inspiration for so many others and life will definitely get easier and better….
    Be positive and brave.
    live and let live.

    ALL the best to you and everyone out there.


  60. JD says:

    You are very brave, bright and beautiful. Thank you for sharing this. I was bullied when I was younger and believed I was very ugly. For years, I painfully suffered from self-doubt. 20 years later those bullies ended up becoming the butt of their own superficial jokes: I still see them, they have given up in life, settled for much less, and are generally in a poorer disposition than they thought they would be in now. I’m happy to report that I’m a professional with many options in life. Hoping you continue to use any negative treatment as a way to drive you in the right direction, I would love to continue reading your updates as you progress in life. Best of luck to you.

  61. Sven Berg says:

    Keep up your good work!!

    // greetings from Sweden

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  64. Olga says:

    Hi Ally – Thank you so much for sharing your story. Many others would break under the pressures your experienced. You didn’t. I read a blog that said coal and diamonds are essentially the same thing, they just reacted differently when subjected to pressure. You are a diamond.

    “A diamond is only forged under conditions of heat and pressure, and takes a great deal of time to fully strengthen, but once it has been strengthened it is nearly impervious to damage. It can handle extreme heat, and more pressure. It can handle attacks to its surface and it can handle the hottest fires , and it does all of this without trouble. It is a good thing to seek to be or become diamond, because it means you understand that life will at times be a heavy burden to bear, but you also recognize that you will, in time, overcome these struggles. You are a force of strength and power in a world that often seems overpowering.”

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  66. kaitlyn says:

    Omgosh i wish i could have been there for you. i wish i could change things for you, change who hurt you. but i couldn’t and every time i see something like this on the internet i think to myself ‘i wish i could have been their friend, been there to stand up for them’ but in reality i’m just like them. i just didn’t go so far. so here i am to say i’m sorry but thank you, thank you for being the support i didn’t have, thank you for being you.

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  69. H loves cats says:

    I’m commenting soooooo late since I JUST found this website. I’m in 7th grade and I’m getting bullied. Not as much as you did (gosh you’re so brave I don’t think I could ever do the things you do) My ex best friend is super sweet the first 3 periods at school, then the rest are times that I get so upset with taunting and getting rejected. I’m SO unpopular, yet I have other friends but they’re bullied too. It turns out the bully has another take of what telling an adult is. I told my principal, councelor, and 2 teachers. I’m tired at being laughed at when I trip or people blaming me for everything and the backstabbing. The bully told her mom that I bully HER and that I should get in trouble. I DONT KNOW WHAT I DID! I look up to you for being so brave and that you are able to overcome it. This is soooo late but I hope you can respond.

    • Ally says:

      Hey- No worries about time at all- I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Bullying really sucks. It’s really hard especially when you’re in a situation like this. Here’s something- being unpopular isn’t the worst thing. I’ve been popular and unpopular, and I can honestly tell you that being unpopular is easier. II see you’re doing the right thing and telling people at school, but I don’t know what their response it. I’d like to hear more, but first off, I’d say that’s the right thing to do,and if you can get a parent AND yourself to put it in writing, cc’ing the superintendent, that would create a paper trail. I’m going to email you more, but in case you don’t get it, please email me at ally @
      #BeBrave, H! You can and will get through this!

  70. kim okelly says:

    You are beautiful…… Amazing,and strong…..a true survivor…. May god bless u……
    Love the O’Kelly’s family…..

  71. Caite says:

    Thank You SOOO INCREDIBLY much for starting this blog! You’ve been through so much and you are such an inspiration to me personally. Thank you for everything you’ve done to raise awareness about this problem. Continue fighting, Stay Strong, and Know that you are never alone!!! <3 <3 <3

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