I’m really glad I decided to share my story. Yes, I have had a few negative comments and experiences come through it, but mostly it’s been positive. Its been shared all over the place- and I’ve been getting all kinds of questions and comments. Here are some of them:
Help! A friend is talking about suicide, what do I do? I told this person to get an adult, right away. Then I told her to share with them the Suicide Prevention Hotline number 1- 800-273-8255. I also told her that if she thought there was an immediate danger, to call the police. I’ve had to do that. It’s scary, but it’s the right thing to do. Trust me, the police would much rather be at a check up call and find an upset kid than a dead one.
Why won’t you name the kids who were bullying you? What would that accomplish at this point? They are no longer doing it. They know who they are. Many of them have apologized to me. The thing is, if I were to call them out publicly, then I’d be the bully. If they are uncomfortable reading my post, maybe they’ve done something to be uncomfortable about. I’ve forgiven them. It wasn’t easy, but I did. Forgiving isn’t to be confused with forgetting. They are not part of my life.
Why don’t you just lose weight if you are bullied for being fat? I wish it were that easy! I’ve had a bunch of medical problems that made me gain weight or made it hard for me to lose weight,. Honestly, being depressed, (and I am clinically depressed) doesn’t help. I don’t want to go into my medical history, but I’ve been sick for a long time, and recently went from being an active cheerleader to couch bound for months, gaining a lot of weight. I want to lose weight. I have a new doctor who is really supportive and seems to be able to help me. I do not want to lose weight to be a better person, I am fine the way I am, but I DO want to lose weight to be healthier. There is also the emotional part of being overweight. I’ve always been “the fat girl” and it’s hard and scary for me to shed that. Losing weight is more than just shedding pounds.
I’ve been overwhelmed with being picked on and thinking no one cares. I saw your video and you seem to have been going through the same thing. You promise things will get better. When? First of all, I am so sorry that you are feeling so sad and alone. I get it. I do. Here’s the thing, things don’t always get better right away. Sometimes, it takes time. Do you have someone you can talk to? I know it sounds cheesy, but the school guidance counselor was really helpful to me. I still talk to the one in my school now. She’s really helpful when I’m overwhelmed at school. You need to talk to someone, anyone who can know what is going on in your life. Maybe you can talk to your parents, your best friend, your best friends mom, your guidance counselor? A trusted teacher? You have to accept you can’t do it alone. The only thing I accomplished alone was nearly killing myself. Looking back, I wish I had shared with my Mom sooner.
You are SO BRAVE to have shared your story! No, I’m not, I was scared to death. I’m still scared. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I worried if people were going to bully me for telling about being bullied. I worried that people would think I was just looking for attention. I worried that it would effect my family. But I knew it was the right thing to do, so I did. I really hope that I can stop one person from harming themselves. That will make it worth it. I am trying to #BeBrave
How do you think you can help other kids? First of all, by sharing my story, I hope I can show kids it DOES GET BETTER. Middle School and High School are not forever. and secondly, I really want to encourage people to stand up for others. I have a whole post swimming around in my head about it, but the thing is: PEOPLE HAVE GOT TO STAND UP FOR EACH OTHER and SIMPLY STOP BEING MEAN. Hiding behind computer screens and online anonymity is the REAL mark of a coward. If you see someone being hurt, physically or mentally, DO SOMETHING. Be a face to face friend, not an online enemy. #BeBrave.
If you have a chance, please take a minute to share THIS ARTICLE from Babble.com. Joslyn Gray wrote up my story in the exact way I wanted it told.
Since I ADORE Ellen Degeneres and the way she always tries to help people- I’d LOVE to get her to share my story- if you tweet, will you please tweet her :
I heard she pays attention if she gets lots of tweets or Facebook post. Think of how many people we can help if she shared! Thank you!